Taking Leave

That the guest of honor must be first to take leave was in former times so fixed a rule that everyone used to sit on and on, no matter how late it became, waiting for her whose duty it was, to go! More often than not, the guest of honor was an absent-minded old lady, or celebrity, who very likely was vaguely saying to herself, " Oh, my! are these people never going home? " until by and by it dawned upon her that the obligation was her own!

But to-day, although it is still the obligation of the guest who sat on the host's right to make the move to go, it is not considered ill-mannered, if the hour is growing late, for another lady to rise first. In fact, unless the guest of honor is one really, meaning a stranger or an elderly lady of distinction, there is no actual precedence in being the one first to go. If the hour is very early when the first lady rises, the hostess, who always rises too, very likely says: " I hope you are not thinking of going! "

The guest answers, " We don't want to in the least, but Dick has to be at the office so early! " or " I'm sorry, but I must. Thank you so much for asking us."

Usually, however, each one merely says, " Good night, thank you so much." The hostess answers, " I am so glad you could come! " and she then presses a bell (not one that any guest can hear!) for the servants to be in the dressing-rooms and hall. When one guest leaves, they all leave—except those at the bridge tables. They all say, " Good night" to whomever they were talking with and shake hands, and then going up to their hostess, they shake hands and say, " Thank you for asking us, " or " Thank you so much."

" Thank you so much; good night, " is the usual expression. And the hostess answers, " It was so nice to see you again, " or " I'm glad you could come." But most usually of all she says merely, " Good night! " and suggests friendliness by the tone in which she says it—an accent slightly more on the " good" perhaps than on the " night."

In the dressing-room, or in the hall, the maid is waiting to help the ladies on with their wraps, and the butler is at the door. When Mr. and Mrs. Jones are ready to leave, he goes out on the front steps and calls, " Mr. Jones' car! " The Jones' chauffeur answers, " Here, " the butler says to either Mr. or Mrs. Jones, " Your car is at the door! " and they go out.

The bridge people leave as they finish their games; sometimes a table at a time or most likely two together. (Husbands and wives are never, if it can be avoided, put at the same table.) Young people in saying good night say, " Good night, it has been too wonderful! " or " Good night, and thank you so much." And the hostess smiles and says, " So glad you could come! " or just " Good night! "