Kyz aittyru

Parents were always occupied with their son's marriage. They were searching for a future fiancee for him long before he attained his majority. A competent family of good, distinguished, and respected people was quested. If in a girl's kinfolk there were unhealthy relatives (the genetic inheritance), she was never sought in marriage. Parents made special visits to people worthy to their mind, in order to discuss their children's future, and to express their wish to become the matchmakers (relatives-in-law).

There are different kinds of 'kyz aittyru'. If children (a boy and a girl) are still babies, or even unborn yet, but the both parties agree to become the relatives-in-law in future, it means that these people know each other very well and are close family friends. Before babies are born (of course, if one of them is a boy, and another is a girl), the parents reach an accord to become the relatives-in-law ('atastyra'). The above-mentioned woo is called 'bel kuda' (before the birth of children), and if children are planned to be married since their birth — 'besik kuda' (besik means a cradle). Sometimes a person who arranged the marriage of his son and his matchmaker's daughter, agrees that his daughter should be married to his matchmaker's son, and in this case both matchmakers are called 'karsy kuda' (mutual matchmaker). People who continued their matchmaking (i.e. who became the matchmakers again) are called 'suyek zhangyrtu'. The grown-up children's marriage is completed after 'kuda tusu' (the matchmaking).

Relations between relatives Kazakhs observed generally until the seventh generation. Thus declares an old custom prohibiting the marriage between men and women of one and the same bloodline. According to the matrimonial rules, a woman must not be more than eight years older than a man, and a man must not be more than twenty five years older than a woman. No permission is given for an unequal marriage.

'Kyz aittyru' serves as a certain foundation for a new steady and exemplary family.