Community Service Planning

Directions: Continue the discussion of planning a community service project. The questions listed below are suggestions.

• Break in to groups of 3-4
• Of the groups we heard from who are we most interested in working with?
• What would we want our community service project to be?
• In the large group have each group present their ideas.

Week Two: Day One Handouts

How to Develop “I” Messages

Think about situations you will be in during the next couple of weeks, find a way that you could use “I” statements in those situations. Finish each of the statements below using “I” messages you may want to use.

1. I feel __________when you __________ because ______________.

2. I feel __________ when you __________ because ______________.

3. I think __________ when you _____________ because __________.

4. I think __________ when you _____________ because ___________.

5. I want _______________________________ because____________.

6. I want _______________________________ because____________.

7. I need __________________________because __________________.

8. I need __________________________because __________________.

“You” and “I’ Messages

Develop one or more “I” statements that are appropriate for each of the situations described below.

1. Your best friend makes fun of some clothes you have just purchased and really like.

2. You lend your Discman (personal CD player) to a friend and later find she has given it to someone else to use.

3. Your parents tell you that you cannot hang out with one of your friends from school because, “He’ll only get you into trouble.”

4. You go to your closet to get the tennis racket you just bought with your own money before you meet your friend for a game and find that your mother has allowed your sister to use it for the day.

5. Your best friend just drove 15 miles to pick you up and help you after your parent’s car broke down.

6. You are at a party and several people keep trying to get you to drink even though you do not want to.

7. Your are sitting on the bus and the person seated next to you makes an inappropriate comment about a person of color who has just gotten on board.

8. You meet your best friend after school and he / she looks extremely depressed.

9. You are meeting with your parents to discuss why you need to ask them to loan you $300 to repair you car.

10. You just heard some of your classmates are telling your friends that the “real” reason you can’t see them over the weekend is that you don’t like them anymore.

Week Two: Day Two